EMOTIONS Updated 08/29/2016
It is hard dealing with the loss of a job for nearly anyone.
Taking time to "clear your head" is critical before you rush out and start talking to
everyone or submitting applications to find a new job. The last item is about getting
information together to start your job search faster but only do this using your records
and other family knowledge versus trying to contact people until SARA has left.
Your new girl friend: SARA
This does not play well if you have a wife, fiance or girl friend but it is a good reflective acronym you can share with them before take serious heat from them. INFORMATION GATHERING
SARA is an acronym for Shock, Anger, Resentment and finally Acceptance.
These are the four normal states people go through before they should begin an active job search. The phases consist of:
Realizing you lost your employment for whatever reason. Often there are few
signs of the pending action. It surprises your co-workers that you were let go
and the shock impacts their work going forward. You may feel sick to your
stomach or feel like taking your anger out on others or simply feel totally
confused and lost. When this happens do not resort to verbal or physical
attacks as it will haunt you later. Avoid from signing any documents as you
will not be in a state of mind to enter into legally binding agreements; take
copies with you for review by someone who understands what they really say.
You start getting mad, possibly while still at your now former job. Do not resort
to verbal or physical attacks as it will haunt you later and cannot be undone.
Posting bond without an income is not a good way to end the day. Venting your
anger is critical to you being able to start your job search. Anger not released
will surface in meetings, interviews, social settings and mark you as "Damaged
Goods" and thus leaving you unemployable. Take the time to unwind, relax so
you can enter the next phase without doing harm to relationships or people you
know or love. If you use alcohol, this is a good time to stop until your head is
back in a good place. If you use drugs, stop now as it will only get worse.
You are angry at your former management, former company, and potentially the
world. This too will pass and if it does not seek help in ending it. Once you
successfully complete this phase you can begin Acceptance where you start
planning your future and charting your course. DO NOT TALK to people yet as
any written or verbal signs of resentment or anger will leave you as "Damaged
Goods" and that is a label that is challenging to remove from your career.
The final stage. This is where you should first start talking to Moderators of The
CT Groups to see if all the Anger and Resentment have left you to avoid the label
of "Damaged Goods". It should only take a few minutes with you doing most if
not all of the talking. Once you achieve this state you mentally are in the right
state to begin planning your future direction, desired job titles/roles, preferred
companies to work at, potentials to move to a new city or state, or take a totally
new direction for a dream you once had and now see the potential for doing it.
You will be needing information for your Career Transition to:
- Past & Current Employment Information
Your Resume and any Employment Applications will require information of:
- past employer including City and State
- starting and termination date often down to the day
- job title
- description of position, duties, etc.
- last manger's name and title
The Employment Application is a legal document. Inaccurate or false information
provided can be the basis for termination. Companies to understand such detail is
not always 100% over many years and allow a "grace" of 60 to 90 days on the dates
entered versus actual before they will be questioned by the Recruiter. A good
practice can be to save your first and last paycheck stubs on a computer for your
reference and supporting evidence should something be challenged.
Last manager information is not seen that often but it is still good to document in
- Certifications, Licenses and Degrees
Expect to provide contact information for verification for any Certifications,
Licenses or Degrees family members have which should include the:
- Number tied to the Certification or Licenses
- Name of the Issuing/Granting Institution or Organization
- Address with City, State, Country and ZIP or Postal Code (if any)
- Telephone Number
- Documents on Insurance Coverage and Members on the Policy
Have information available from your current/previous employer that documents
benefits available, what is covered, who is covered, coverage limitations, and what
the cost is. Having this information can help you make decisions to avoid costly
mistakes in obtaining coverage from private or government programs.
You may or may not be eligible for COBRA (a continuation of Employer Benefits)
but this is often at a higher cost than alternatives. Know the dates they are due
plus the premium.
Insurance on other items such as Car Insurance, Homeowners Insurance and any
special insurance you may carry to that you know your coverage and premiums.
Do not forget Life Insurance policies of all types you may hold including those for
burial or post-life benefits along with any premiums that will be due, when and
- Documents on Family and Property
There may be a desire or need to relocate for a good job. For this many items
need to be gathered and saved should this option be taken. These include:
- Registration, Bill of Sale, Title and active insurance policies and inspection
on any motor vehicles which can include motorcycles, cars, trucks, mobile
homes, recreational vehicles, campers, trailers, etc.
If you need to register such items in a new state or certain
localities, you will need to establish proof of ownership and payment of taxes
in your original location and/or provide a basis for additional taxes that may
be due in the new locality.
- Medical and Dental Records
Generally you only need to know how to contact the holders of these records
so they can be forwarded between recognized offices. This will be needed for
all parents, children and potentially pets.
Have available the contact information for any hospitals, clinics and other
medical providers who may have additional information including X-Rays,
EKG records, lab reports, etc. that will be needed in the new location.
- Transfer of Medical Prescriptions
Being able to replace lost of fully consumed medications can be a nightmare
when in a new town and not being fully established. Keep in mind not all
prescriptions can be transferred easily or may require a new script to get
the medication. Seeking advanced refills of key medications may be smart.
- Birth Certificates Family Members
Schools and States can be funny about what they can waive or demand.
Order copies as needed. Often this is the Bureau of Statistics for the City or
County where family members were born. A small fee is sometimes charged
for providing such material. Keep these in a secure place and scanned into a
computer for quick access such as natural disasters, or other proof required.
- Driver License Records
Insure the expiration dates on Driver Licenses will not become a problem if
your move to a location is delayed. This can add complexity to your efforts
to drive in your new State or through states in your relocation.
- Academic Records
Records from any of your children's schools will be needed at their new
school. Know how that request needs to be made and how the request is to
be made to obtain those records. This, along with proof of vaccinations, if
not provided in time, could cause a delay in your children starting school.
- House and other Restate Holdings
Having evidence of prior ownership and subsequent sale may avoid any legel
issues from arising or getting out of control.
- Utility Providers, and Service Providers
Upon leaving you will want the Billing Office to be aware of your new address
for final bills after shut-off or transfer of responsibility to the new owners.
- Forwarding Address
While the above should protect you from late or unreceived bills, providing
notice to the US Post Office adds protection for these and other items not
remembered and addressed.
- Neighbors, Friends and Home Owners Insurance Agent Contact Information
It's always good to stay in touch with old friends especially if you may need to
enlist their help for something left or to handle a residence matter if you did
not sell your home or still have legal ownership. Plus you know how to reach
to share your stories and keep in contact. The same for Home Owners and
law enforcement should it be necessary.
- WHO DO YOU KNOW??
So often we become complacent and don't keep track of people we know well, people we have met, people we worked with or socialized with or went to religious services with ... along with how to contact them.
These contacts can provide a "jump start" to your job search by adding extra eyes and ears for opportunities that could make a significant difference to you and your family. Whether it is someone inside a company you have on your TOP COMPANIES list, someone who can offer a reference or has skills in the area of job search (hiring manager, HR Recruiter, etc.).
LinkedIn is great but it does not provide a quick way to identify friends which often is a small subset of your total connections. Use this time, in part, to reconstruct, update or even start building your list including full contact information, where you became acquainted and about when along with where they were and what they do. Knowledge is Power so build your power today!