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110 They Like Me

Update xx/xx/2017
   Do YOU really NEED everyone to like YOU?   Not at all.
   There is a belief this is a need to be loved more than
   liked. Some won't love you because you have some trait,
   skill, look, way, or appeal they don't.  Welcome to life.

   What we do need is to understand how to "get along"
   with people despite differences of politics, religion, and
   who makes the best hamburger in the world. Accept you
   for what you are and build from there and people will
   begin to like you for what makes you special ... YOU.
   To "live in your own skin" happily, many things are needed, including getting past a
   perception people have to "Like" you for you to be happy or successful.  So consider

   an age-old secret: Be responsible, be accountable, be professionalbe you.
   All the rest of the nonsense people get worried over seem not to matter after that.

   We still need to get along with others to be successful in our own minds and in the
   opinion of those who matter to us - our family, friends, most of our colleagues, some
   to most of the people where we work, people we socialize with, people we work with
   to help others, people we attend church with, and on and on and on.  Be seen as a
   person of integrity, of honor, someone who lives up to their word and always is seen
   simply doing the right thing. That's not just "a like", but respect you are receiving.

    How to Overcome the Need to Be Liked  |  HuffPost, Mercedes Maidana                                            12/03/2014

   Stop Trying to Be Liked and Start Being You  |  Lifehack, Craig Harper    

   Two Snap Judgments People Make When They First Meet You
       |  Linkedin, Dr. Travis Bradberry                                                                                                                                            07/10/2017
    Amy Cuddy, a psychologist at the Harvard Business School, has been studying first 
    impressions for more than a decade. She and her colleagues found that we make snap
    judgments about other people that answer two primary questions:
      - Can I trust this person?
      - Can I respect this person’s capabilities?
    According to Cuddy’s research, 80% to 90% of a first impression is based on these two
    traits. Subconsciously, you and the people you meet are asking yourselves, “Can I trust
    that this person has good intentions toward me?” and “Is this person capable?”
    [Under TED Videos, we have links to Amy Cuddy's presentations for your benefit.]